Wednesday, December 17, 2008
Look Beautiful
I know its not about about hair today, but I thought I'd start giving a few makeup tips as well-after all it about beauty right!! Now for my dark-skinned sistahs, we know how challenging it is to find a foundation that matches our skin tone without looking ashy for orange or red by the end of the day. Makeup Forever has a wide range of shades and I like this particular product because although it i a liquid, it dries like powder and your skin looks air brushed. You don't even need to use much either. Check out there eyehadows too-very vivid long lasting colors. I know, I'm part of the M.A.C. congregation too but I like Makeup Forever a little bit more. Go to your nearest Sephora store and test it out!
Love Ya
Salkis
Thursday, November 27, 2008
Who I Am
Wow it has been to long you guy. I hope is well with you all. I am fantastic, enjoying life. I completed another rotation around thi planet a I celebrated my birthday on the 20th of this month. It got me to thinking about my life and future plans and I realized that I have to continue making it what I want it to be. I have personally committed to being more pretty, more feminine, more sexy. I definitely am "feeling" myself more- I guess the "Fabulousity" bug has bit me too. I naturally would sway towards the homey head wrap look but while quite "natural" it just wasn't alluring enough for me. There is a magic about being a woman that I am learning to embrace more and more. There is power,real power in owning your femininity. I love how my mine works, my intuitive nature, my caring nurturing side, my playfulness, my wisdom, the love I express with words or a hug or even a soft caress. I'm getting better, stronger, wiser, more beautiful This year. I have promised this to myself. I am going to laugh everyday, love hard,work hard, pray.... just do me.
Are guys with me on this! Are you going to be, do have have what you want from this point forward, are you going to sit in the dark and listen to the voice that try to guide you. If your mom is still here, kiss her, if your father is still here, tell him you love him, if your grandmother is still here, bow at her feet for she your GRANDMOTHER! Jut a you are guidance for your children, so are the elders guidance for you as well. Be the example you are looking for, the rock that someone can lean on, the compassionate friend, the respectful daughter, be what you want to see in others
This is what I intend to do with my time on this planet. Until the next dance..
Luv Ya!
Friday, September 12, 2008
I am getting some Friction
I haven't spoken to them yet, but the home office called me today. I think it may have something to do with the extension video I put up recently. I have to say that the home office does not endorse extensions on sisterlocks. This is something I have created on my own to fill a need. It was born out a need to repair damaged locks do to excessive hair coloring. I in no way want to dishonor the Sisterlocks system in any way. I repair regular sized locks as a service for those that need it. Over time some locks may thin or even break leaving a need to explore option to save the locs.
I will talk with the home office later and if there is a problem with t, I will have to limit my information about extending locs to cultivated locs exclusively. Tell me what you think.
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No Sisterlock Extensions
Saturday, August 30, 2008
Its Your Damn Hair
In my raw food blog I talked about staying in control. I take with women everyday, and it is evident to me that we give up we know in our hearts is right for us to do. It mostly means turning off Logic and reacting to Emotions. We play by emotions all day long.
Imagine having to seek approval or validation from another human being who has to put their pants on one leg at a time just as you do. But we do this all the time. We're so afraid of rejection, being unloved, or socially accepted. Our hair is such a political, social issue and for many of us, very scary to deal with.
Set yourself free from the that shell and be who you know you need to be.
Yes everyone won't like it.
But so what! Your chest expands because of the air you breathe and there is not one single person including your mother who can do that for(well she did while you were in her womb, but she relinguished that power to you when the cord was cut!) You have start making the best of the life you have. If this means stepping away from false things like relaxers and extensions, then so be it. But be firm in the WHY your doing so that you create an unshakeable faith in whats right for you.
For me, natural hair represents love of "HOW" I am made. And I don't care who thinks differently.
I have built up my arsenal of , biblical, historical,philosophical facts to support my decision. It feels right too. It is a higher connection to me.
If you are reading and are unsure of the leap to Sisterlocks or natura hair in general, the fact that you are conflicted means that you have given up your control to some level.
You know that you need:
Food
water
shelter
To survive. Is there anyone on this planet that can tell you that you can live without food? You know with absolute assurity that you need food to sustain you. It is the same for every other aspect of your life. The confidence and the knowlege that you need food to exist is so natural for you that no religion can program you into thinking different less Jesus himself comes down and tells you so.
Have this posture in all you do. In all areas of your life and you will look in the mirror and like what stares back at you.
Love
Salkis
Imagine having to seek approval or validation from another human being who has to put their pants on one leg at a time just as you do. But we do this all the time. We're so afraid of rejection, being unloved, or socially accepted. Our hair is such a political, social issue and for many of us, very scary to deal with.
Set yourself free from the that shell and be who you know you need to be.
Yes everyone won't like it.
But so what! Your chest expands because of the air you breathe and there is not one single person including your mother who can do that for(well she did while you were in her womb, but she relinguished that power to you when the cord was cut!) You have start making the best of the life you have. If this means stepping away from false things like relaxers and extensions, then so be it. But be firm in the WHY your doing so that you create an unshakeable faith in whats right for you.
For me, natural hair represents love of "HOW" I am made. And I don't care who thinks differently.
I have built up my arsenal of , biblical, historical,philosophical facts to support my decision. It feels right too. It is a higher connection to me.
If you are reading and are unsure of the leap to Sisterlocks or natura hair in general, the fact that you are conflicted means that you have given up your control to some level.
You know that you need:
Food
water
shelter
To survive. Is there anyone on this planet that can tell you that you can live without food? You know with absolute assurity that you need food to sustain you. It is the same for every other aspect of your life. The confidence and the knowlege that you need food to exist is so natural for you that no religion can program you into thinking different less Jesus himself comes down and tells you so.
Have this posture in all you do. In all areas of your life and you will look in the mirror and like what stares back at you.
Love
Salkis
Friday, August 29, 2008
Have Fear!
Yes, have fear if you want to change. You have to replace what you desire with the fear of never obtaining what you want!
For example, feared ending up like my father did.. Amputation, coma, heart attack... That was his reality before he died. I have a fear, a temendous fear that if I did ate what he ate,lived his lifestyle, I would meet the same fate. For me, the fear OF having that rack of ribs, or cheesecake has become bigger than the desire to have it. What do you fear? Do you fear being overweight for the rest of your life? Or maybe you fear that your partner doesn't love you as much since you gained the weight! Do you fear that your overall health is on a downfall. Do you fear that your mate won't like your natural hair? Replace it with a bigger one.
Fear that if you don't exersize, your going to start looking old and the love of your life won't find you attractive anymore.
Fear that if you don't make changes in your diet know, by next year you'll be on more medication or can't even afford the meds..
Fear that if you don't stop perming your hair
Guard your health with you LIFE!!
For example, feared ending up like my father did.. Amputation, coma, heart attack... That was his reality before he died. I have a fear, a temendous fear that if I did ate what he ate,lived his lifestyle, I would meet the same fate. For me, the fear OF having that rack of ribs, or cheesecake has become bigger than the desire to have it. What do you fear? Do you fear being overweight for the rest of your life? Or maybe you fear that your partner doesn't love you as much since you gained the weight! Do you fear that your overall health is on a downfall. Do you fear that your mate won't like your natural hair? Replace it with a bigger one.
Fear that if you don't exersize, your going to start looking old and the love of your life won't find you attractive anymore.
Fear that if you don't make changes in your diet know, by next year you'll be on more medication or can't even afford the meds..
Fear that if you don't stop perming your hair
Guard your health with you LIFE!!
Sunday, August 24, 2008
Nastalgia
http://myspacetv.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=5774072 Check this Jackson 5 video out. Oh man this is memories for me. Big Afros, wow! I felt so good watching them create the world, or so I envisioned.
Enjoy
Enjoy
Saturday, August 23, 2008
That didn't work!!
Ok, so last week I was feeling like doing something really drastic with my hair. I wanted to join some locks together so I twisted like three locks together. It looked like shit!! Needless to say, I quickly got over my boredom or whatever I was going through. Now I may revisit it again someday but it won't be anytime soon. Thanks you guys for the support anyway, I really needed it.
Back to hair, I have been keep the routine pretty simple, just cleansing not much in terms of styling these days. My hair is on my shoulders now and I have notice that the longer it gets the delicate handling it needs so I limit the roller sets and the braids outs for when I really want to "Floss" and thats on weekends mostly. I still sleep with them covered with a bonnet and do the applecider vinegar rinse once a month.
If frizzes are a probem but you don't want to cut them off you could use some holding spritz and your handy blowdryer with a diffuser attachment. Spray your hair with the spritz and blast some warm air to it with the dryer. If you have poofy hair this will make it really flat. If you want it really flat you could add some castor oil on your hair first then the spritz then blowdry it. The castor will add weight to your hair and help to "stretch" it out somewhat.
Back to hair, I have been keep the routine pretty simple, just cleansing not much in terms of styling these days. My hair is on my shoulders now and I have notice that the longer it gets the delicate handling it needs so I limit the roller sets and the braids outs for when I really want to "Floss" and thats on weekends mostly. I still sleep with them covered with a bonnet and do the applecider vinegar rinse once a month.
If frizzes are a probem but you don't want to cut them off you could use some holding spritz and your handy blowdryer with a diffuser attachment. Spray your hair with the spritz and blast some warm air to it with the dryer. If you have poofy hair this will make it really flat. If you want it really flat you could add some castor oil on your hair first then the spritz then blowdry it. The castor will add weight to your hair and help to "stretch" it out somewhat.
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Rethinking Sisterlocks and Natural Hair
How are you guys feeling today. I feel great! It is a blessing to be alive. I will say that I am having the urge to do something drastic with my hair again. I have though about joining my locks to make them bigger. I know, I know, I'd be "sellin out" if I do it but I am feeling like embracing a wilder, more uninhibited me, ya know!
Do get me wrong, I am still pro Sisterlocks but I guess I want to look more like a "bush woman" lol Sisterlocks are so corporate or "establishment" to me now. I think it is a great level to be on and I have enjoyed the ride, but I am not afraid of being frizzy anymore...
Most of my clients are doing the corporate gigs so they have to look acceptable in those circles but they still want to be natural, so they choose Sisterlocks. Could this be conformity in a subtle way? I've just been thinking about it a little deeper.
To be honest I wouldn't mind just being a beach bum wearing wife beaters and flip-flops while sucking down coconut water and sun bathing. Whew, no more late night banana-pineapple smoothies for me anymore. I think its got me a little high...lol
I think I'd cry if I gave up my Sl's
What do you think?
Do get me wrong, I am still pro Sisterlocks but I guess I want to look more like a "bush woman" lol Sisterlocks are so corporate or "establishment" to me now. I think it is a great level to be on and I have enjoyed the ride, but I am not afraid of being frizzy anymore...
Most of my clients are doing the corporate gigs so they have to look acceptable in those circles but they still want to be natural, so they choose Sisterlocks. Could this be conformity in a subtle way? I've just been thinking about it a little deeper.
To be honest I wouldn't mind just being a beach bum wearing wife beaters and flip-flops while sucking down coconut water and sun bathing. Whew, no more late night banana-pineapple smoothies for me anymore. I think its got me a little high...lol
I think I'd cry if I gave up my Sl's
What do you think?
natural hiar, wellness, self esteem
Is Sisterlocks Still Conforming
Monday, August 11, 2008
Bernie Mac's Death
Sad loss of Bernie Mac just reconfirmed my commitment health and nutrition. The disease he had Sarcoidosis is a condition were the body tissue becomes inflamed has a result of the cells releasing chemicals in defense bacteria etc. As I stated before, inflamation is the cause of most any disease you can think of. from Asthma to diabetes, to Aids, you'll find the root of these afflictions is inflamation. What causes inflamation? A suppressed immune system for one. And a suppressed immune system can be caused by stress, environment and bad food most of all.
Sistas we have to love ourselves enough to make the changes needed to survive in this world. Changing your hair to its natural state is a start but the work doesn't stop there. Demand the best for yourself, give your best, do your best or don't do it at all. If something stresses you out, run from it-- don't allow anything or anyone the power to make you miserable. As we see, life is so short. Make every breath count!
Sistas we have to love ourselves enough to make the changes needed to survive in this world. Changing your hair to its natural state is a start but the work doesn't stop there. Demand the best for yourself, give your best, do your best or don't do it at all. If something stresses you out, run from it-- don't allow anything or anyone the power to make you miserable. As we see, life is so short. Make every breath count!
Monday, July 28, 2008
Remember What you have to do
I have missed you guys. I hope all is well^)Isn't being natural wonderful!! I will be adding new pics soon especially new styling tips for diva sisters. I am still adjusting to being single again. I have to say that I do like being alone so that my attention is on me and my interests, but I do miss hugs and kisses and all that lovey dovey stuff that comes with relationships. So until then, I 'll just hug and kiss myself^.
Are you guys doing your maintenance(coconut oil, veggie glycerin, no conditioner...)
Keep that hair off the pillow cases to avoid lint build-up
Dilute your shampoo 2:1 water:shampoo Shampoos can cause build-up in the hair too especially conditioning shampoos- Don't use them!
My head-wrapped sistas, get some sun on that scalp. Then sun is good for skin and scalp.
Drink your water(Gallon or 2 liters at least everyday) Remember our hair is carbon so we need oxygen to help it to grow (Water+ exercise)
Above all else, love yourself
Peace
Are you guys doing your maintenance(coconut oil, veggie glycerin, no conditioner...)
Keep that hair off the pillow cases to avoid lint build-up
Dilute your shampoo 2:1 water:shampoo Shampoos can cause build-up in the hair too especially conditioning shampoos- Don't use them!
My head-wrapped sistas, get some sun on that scalp. Then sun is good for skin and scalp.
Drink your water(Gallon or 2 liters at least everyday) Remember our hair is carbon so we need oxygen to help it to grow (Water+ exercise)
Above all else, love yourself
Peace
Monday, May 05, 2008
Making That Move
Hey ladies, its been quite a while since my last post, sorry!^( How have you guys been? I have been working a few projects to be announced real soon. I will also be offering extension services for my Sl sisters who need to add length and repairs for their locs.
From my own experience, I saw a need for this and if anyone need to repair and extend their locs, please call or e-mail me.
As for my personal life, I did finally end things with my husband and have started divorce proceedings. I feel very confident about this. I am more at peace now than I have been in years. I give credit to pure focus and determination, no magic!
Things are flowing my way and I love life! Hooray!!
Again, if you are in contemplation about anything in your life, use your truth gauge! What is it? Your feelings. You know when something isn't right b the way it makes you feel, period.
I feel so good about who I am right now Sisterlocks and all! Don't be afraid to do what's best for you(what YOU feel is best for you)and you will find that life will be more enjoyable.
I love you all!
From my own experience, I saw a need for this and if anyone need to repair and extend their locs, please call or e-mail me.
As for my personal life, I did finally end things with my husband and have started divorce proceedings. I feel very confident about this. I am more at peace now than I have been in years. I give credit to pure focus and determination, no magic!
Things are flowing my way and I love life! Hooray!!
Again, if you are in contemplation about anything in your life, use your truth gauge! What is it? Your feelings. You know when something isn't right b the way it makes you feel, period.
I feel so good about who I am right now Sisterlocks and all! Don't be afraid to do what's best for you(what YOU feel is best for you)and you will find that life will be more enjoyable.
I love you all!
natural hiar, wellness, self esteem
Move towards the real you
Monday, February 25, 2008
Jewel Pookrum Speaks
http://I was going to save thhis for a later post, but I think we all need to hear this Sistah. If you want to change your life, get healthy, and be dynamic, Jewel Pookrum is the sistah to listen to. Enjoy
Tips For Locks
Lock extensions can really move you straight into stardom without having to suffer the in between pain of unattractive, short hair. But please do not overdue it! Adding too much hair will only weaken the base of your locks and causes thinning of your own hair. For a firm extension, try using steam to seal the newly formed dredlock before you attach it to your hair. The steam is better than a blow dryer because the hair still keeps its shape. Just run it over the spout of a teapot and rest them on a towel to dry.
Do not do Nubian Knots to curl your locks!
This style is good on occasion the constant tight knotting of your locks will eventually break them off. I personally don't do them to style my hair. I either do a braid out or use perm rods or sponge rollers in different sizes.
Do not use Shea butter, beeswax, mineral oil
Use light oils and products that can easily wash out of your hair. If you use heavy products, over time this will weight your locks down causing thinning, breakage and bacterial growth.
When you color your hair try not to overlap the color(permanent color) because this can weaken the locks. And do not bleach or lighten the hair right after its been Sisterlocked. When you color the hair using bleach, it changes the texture of the hair and can lossen the Sisterlocks thereby causing slippage. I am sure you've seen sistahs that are blonde with curly hair! This is not because there hair texture is softer, its because the bleach causes light straightening of the hair.
A simple mix of cold pressed coconut oil, cold pressed olive oil, vegetable glycerin, and distilled water is an excellent hair conditioner!
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Do not do Nubian Knots to curl your locks!
This style is good on occasion the constant tight knotting of your locks will eventually break them off. I personally don't do them to style my hair. I either do a braid out or use perm rods or sponge rollers in different sizes.
Do not use Shea butter, beeswax, mineral oil
Use light oils and products that can easily wash out of your hair. If you use heavy products, over time this will weight your locks down causing thinning, breakage and bacterial growth.
When you color your hair try not to overlap the color(permanent color) because this can weaken the locks. And do not bleach or lighten the hair right after its been Sisterlocked. When you color the hair using bleach, it changes the texture of the hair and can lossen the Sisterlocks thereby causing slippage. I am sure you've seen sistahs that are blonde with curly hair! This is not because there hair texture is softer, its because the bleach causes light straightening of the hair.
A simple mix of cold pressed coconut oil, cold pressed olive oil, vegetable glycerin, and distilled water is an excellent hair conditioner!
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tips for Sisterlocks and traditional locks
Saturday, February 23, 2008
How to roller set Sisterlocks Part 2
Just another quick tip about the roller setting. If you want your curls to be tighter towards the top and front, do a high ponytail first then set as I showed you, if you want the back to be tight and the top more loose then do a low ponytail etc...
Love Ya
Love Ya
natural hiar, wellness, self esteem
how to roller set for fast drying,
part 2
Friday, February 22, 2008
How to roller set Sisterlocks
This technique cut my drying time in half!
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how to roller set for fast drying
Thursday, February 21, 2008
Promoting Your Sisterlocks Services For Free
I found this cool social networking site that allows you to promote your website by posting "Intel" which really can be anything from a blurb to a dissertation. I really like it because not only do you get to promote for free, the Google revenue generated from your posts are 100% yours!! I am using this to promote my website as I am promoting my hair classes and Sisterlocks services.
Well, this one is short and sweet, until tomorrow!
Peace
Well, this one is short and sweet, until tomorrow!
Peace
natural hiar, wellness, self esteem
Promoting Sisterlocks using Qassia
Wednesday, February 20, 2008
How to correct color mistakes on sisterlocks.
This is a short video cip of what I use to correct color mistakes. If you've dyed your hair jet black or another dark color, you will have to be careful when stripping your hair. Keep in mind that it is unsafe trying to go all the way to blonde in one session. But you can lighten it up without having to wait to grow the color out of your Sisterlocks.
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changing my hair color
Me With Sisterlocks
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Me Now with Sisterlocks
Sunday, February 17, 2008
Accept Payments for Sisterlock Services
I found this kool credit card processing company that works a lot like Paypal. I don't use paypal anymore because they froze my account after I opened a dispute for non delivery of a $300 dollar blender I purchased on Ebay.
Not ony did they lock my account, I had a few hundred dollars that I didn't transfer into my bank account yet, and they still haven't released my money to me. Do yourself a favor and move your money into your bank account as soon as you get it. You never know if paypal will decide to freeze your money.
I found AlertPay and they function very similar to paypal, its free to join and low transaction fees too.
So for you stylists who need a way to accept credits for deposits for services or maybe your selling jewelry and hair goods, you can send a request to pay forms. I use them to set up monthly payments for clients who want to pay for their Sisterlocks in installments.
Check them out now.
Not ony did they lock my account, I had a few hundred dollars that I didn't transfer into my bank account yet, and they still haven't released my money to me. Do yourself a favor and move your money into your bank account as soon as you get it. You never know if paypal will decide to freeze your money.
I found AlertPay and they function very similar to paypal, its free to join and low transaction fees too.
So for you stylists who need a way to accept credits for deposits for services or maybe your selling jewelry and hair goods, you can send a request to pay forms. I use them to set up monthly payments for clients who want to pay for their Sisterlocks in installments.
Check them out now.
natural hiar, wellness, self esteem
online payments for Sisterlocks
Saturday, February 16, 2008
Is Shea Butter really good for Sisterlocks?
I read on the a sistahs blog that she uses an air can to blow lint out of dredlocks, I though I'd heard it all but this one is a first. Does anyone know where you can purchase an air can? Wow, the things we come up with!
Anywho, I was talking with a cosmetic chemist about 2 days ago, and we into a discussion about natural products.
I am going to develop a line of products for locks and natural hair textures.
When the chemist and I where discussing ingredients, the subject of She butter came up and he said something very surprising.. He said that shea butter is "Wood Glue"!
"What!, I said. He repeated it again although I had heard him very clearly. Its funny, but I had long since stopped using she butter to groom locks because I saw build up like the kind you see from using beeswax.
See, locks(Sisterlocks, cultivated locks, extensions etc..) act just like a cup and anything you put in it will held on to. Shea butter in particular is very tacky, especially in its raw form.
Now although I didn't agree with list of chemical alternatives he had given me, the shea butter thing did make sense. That's why I like Sisterlocks.
Sisterlocks keeps your hair clean, because no product is used.
Think about it. If you are starting locks, and you mold the hair with gel and lets say in 2 weeks you wash your hair(which is usually like 4 weeks for most people), by the time you get around to washing ,you're giving it a light shampoo, medium to low pressure water, and you are being really careful not to "disturb" the locking pattern you formed previously.
This means that most likely, you didn't completely remove the gel used in the first session. And now your adding more product to mold the hair back into the lock pattern.
This is the start of locks dirty hair too.
The critics where right!
Dreds are dirty and even with frequent shampoos and acid rinses, you will never get them completely clean. Just imagine putting grease on your face for 10 years without washing you face clean each time.
Can you picture the gunk!
Anyway, I would suggest an acid rinse(apple cider vinegar+ water) and add some dead sea salt to the mix too.
Sea salt pulls toxins from the skin and it can do the same for hair. Maybe about a tsp added to the mix should give you the boost you need.
Don't be a product junkie! Keep things really simple when you begin your Sisterlocks or traditional locs.
So remember you newbies, forego the pretty packaged, biodegradable ,non animal tested ,all natural Butters for now and concentrate on keeping the hair mildew free and light weight.
Anywho, I was talking with a cosmetic chemist about 2 days ago, and we into a discussion about natural products.
I am going to develop a line of products for locks and natural hair textures.
When the chemist and I where discussing ingredients, the subject of She butter came up and he said something very surprising.. He said that shea butter is "Wood Glue"!
"What!, I said. He repeated it again although I had heard him very clearly. Its funny, but I had long since stopped using she butter to groom locks because I saw build up like the kind you see from using beeswax.
See, locks(Sisterlocks, cultivated locks, extensions etc..) act just like a cup and anything you put in it will held on to. Shea butter in particular is very tacky, especially in its raw form.
Now although I didn't agree with list of chemical alternatives he had given me, the shea butter thing did make sense. That's why I like Sisterlocks.
Sisterlocks keeps your hair clean, because no product is used.
Think about it. If you are starting locks, and you mold the hair with gel and lets say in 2 weeks you wash your hair(which is usually like 4 weeks for most people), by the time you get around to washing ,you're giving it a light shampoo, medium to low pressure water, and you are being really careful not to "disturb" the locking pattern you formed previously.
This means that most likely, you didn't completely remove the gel used in the first session. And now your adding more product to mold the hair back into the lock pattern.
This is the start of locks dirty hair too.
The critics where right!
Dreds are dirty and even with frequent shampoos and acid rinses, you will never get them completely clean. Just imagine putting grease on your face for 10 years without washing you face clean each time.
Can you picture the gunk!
Anyway, I would suggest an acid rinse(apple cider vinegar+ water) and add some dead sea salt to the mix too.
Sea salt pulls toxins from the skin and it can do the same for hair. Maybe about a tsp added to the mix should give you the boost you need.
Don't be a product junkie! Keep things really simple when you begin your Sisterlocks or traditional locs.
So remember you newbies, forego the pretty packaged, biodegradable ,non animal tested ,all natural Butters for now and concentrate on keeping the hair mildew free and light weight.
natural hiar, wellness, self esteem
shea butter for Sisterlocks
Monday, February 11, 2008
Transition To Sisterlocks
How is your year going so far. For me, it has been a real eye opener. My beliefs have been challenged, by habits have been tested. I am finding more connections with the mind boy and spirit.
I am starting to realize that Sisterlocks is connected to our higher sense of self. Most of not all of my clients(myself included) have made the decision to cross over to sisterlocks because of major shift in circumstance, tramatic events, celebratory events etc.. It always seems to be a letting go of something, or a letting in of something that provides the perfect recipe for transition to Sisterlocks.
I meet women who have just recovered from cancer
I meet women who are having their first baby
I meet women who are coming out of relationships or getting into one
I meet women who have just lost loved ones
I meet women who have started new jobs
and so on and so on...
See, it is always centered around some major happening in our lives. I have never seen a hairstyle have such power over a person's life as I have with Sisterlocks. Its really not the hairstyle itself, but what it represents. I love it!
I am starting to realize that Sisterlocks is connected to our higher sense of self. Most of not all of my clients(myself included) have made the decision to cross over to sisterlocks because of major shift in circumstance, tramatic events, celebratory events etc.. It always seems to be a letting go of something, or a letting in of something that provides the perfect recipe for transition to Sisterlocks.
I meet women who have just recovered from cancer
I meet women who are having their first baby
I meet women who are coming out of relationships or getting into one
I meet women who have just lost loved ones
I meet women who have started new jobs
and so on and so on...
See, it is always centered around some major happening in our lives. I have never seen a hairstyle have such power over a person's life as I have with Sisterlocks. Its really not the hairstyle itself, but what it represents. I love it!
natural hiar, wellness, self esteem
Transition To Sisterlocks
Sunday, February 10, 2008
Thanks to all my sistahs. I really appreciated all your kind words of support and encouragement. It wasn't easy putting my business on front street, but I have to say that it has been a release for me.
I actually felt the same emotions when I first put Sisterlocks in my hair. You will feel nervous and excited at the same time.
Why?
Because something inside of you is saying that this is the right thing to do, but its new territory so you're a little unsure. Once you do it, you feel a calm sense of security.
A peeling away of the old you and a birthday for the new you.
It kinda reminds me of a wedding day. You want to go through with, your excited about and at the same time your sick to your stomach with uncertainty.
I am a big advocate for action. Don't wait for the "right time" because the right time is when that desire hits you.
There's something very earthy yet sensual about having natural hair. I also think that the image of it being ruff and unkept is going away, at least in the minds of our people.
I also think that it really is up to the woman to set the standard of change with respect to this image. Men are not going to do it. Women have to support one another. When you see a natural sista, compliment her. Kind words go a long way.
We have to show men that there is another way to be beautiful. And if natural hair is what you want to rep then you can't second guess yourself.
Love
Salkis
www.combmyhair.com
I actually felt the same emotions when I first put Sisterlocks in my hair. You will feel nervous and excited at the same time.
Why?
Because something inside of you is saying that this is the right thing to do, but its new territory so you're a little unsure. Once you do it, you feel a calm sense of security.
A peeling away of the old you and a birthday for the new you.
It kinda reminds me of a wedding day. You want to go through with, your excited about and at the same time your sick to your stomach with uncertainty.
I am a big advocate for action. Don't wait for the "right time" because the right time is when that desire hits you.
There's something very earthy yet sensual about having natural hair. I also think that the image of it being ruff and unkept is going away, at least in the minds of our people.
I also think that it really is up to the woman to set the standard of change with respect to this image. Men are not going to do it. Women have to support one another. When you see a natural sista, compliment her. Kind words go a long way.
We have to show men that there is another way to be beautiful. And if natural hair is what you want to rep then you can't second guess yourself.
Love
Salkis
www.combmyhair.com
Thursday, January 31, 2008
My husband taught me a lesson.
I decided to write about something very personal to me today. I have talked about many issues here on my blog and I feel that this one is just as relevant.
My husband told me that he had cheated on me while I was pregnant with our first child.
Whew! There I said it. I feel relieved.
Was it a difficult thing to here? Lets just say that I am pretty sure I know what it feels like to be stabbed in the heart: literally.
I thought about our "love" for one another. I tried to wrap my head around what he may have been thinking about when he was doing it. Was he "loving" me when he was F%&King her? Did he completely separate the two. Did he care for this chick(who he saw for 8 months. He did everything with her:AND I MEAN EVERYTHING!
I think that stung the most. Knowing that nothing we have done together is reserved for just me. It means you do it for performance props and not because your passionate about me.
I hated him for a while. I cried. I felt ugly. Ashamed.
Its funny how all those emotions I used to feel when I visited the neighborhood playground returned, "Get outa here Tar Baby!", or"If your darker than this paper bag, I can't play with you." That's what my playground experiences consisted of. Degradation, humiliation, and feeling unworthy to share the same laughter and joy as others.
But I had to snap out of it and really analyze my feelings.
Why am I hurt my this?
My answer: Because I thought we had come to a point in our "relationship" where trust wasn't an issue. I thought that he had matured though experience and he was finally happy with me.
What made me assume that he'd mature?
My answer: I thought that the risk of losing our relationship was enough to motivate him to change.
He has done this before, so why am I taking this so personally now?
my answer: Because I was pregnant at the time. I never planned to have another child. Gosh! My oldest daughter was 14 years old already. After many years of begging for a child, I finally give in and that's when you decide to cheat! I thought that by giving him what he wanted, that would make our relationship stronger.
How do you feel about him and the relationship now?
my answer: I know that something is gone inside of me. Would I secretly meet someone else? Will I eventually leave? These are things I had absolute answers to before all of this, and now, I didn't know.
I am not having a pity party everyday, that's not the way I want to live. But I do have a greater understanding about relationships and why certain woman go for security and not love. I now understand why multiple wives may not be such a bad thing for some women who understand the "bottom line".
Having an emotional connection to a man is a dangerous game and you may not get the pay-off you expect. Why do I say this? Because there isn't a woman I know that hasn't been through a discretion in a relationship; not one! But yet we do things to compromise our happiness and our mental and physical well-being everyday.
I realize now that I truly love my girls. When I thought about love, I immediately pictured my girls. My husband, I love him in a different way now. A 'take it or leave it sort of way'. I have no expectations about it, it just is what it is.
Its funny how we go through life trying to please people, but these same people do what they do to please themselves. You may occasionally make a breakthrough or win your plea for new drapes or a trip to Rome etc.. But you ultimately have to find that happiness within yourself.
I start my day in gratitude for waking up, for seeing, for breathing, for my children and for my husband... and this sets the tone for the rest of my day. It keeps me focused on the things that make me feel good.
It brought me back to when I first met Dr. Cornwell and learned of the Sisterlocks system. I was afraid to do it for fear that my husband wouldn't like it. I loved it, but I sacrificed my own happiness for what? For fear. That's what! We don't realize how much of what we don't do is because of fear.
Who wants to live like that!
Listen to me. Don't look for your worth from anything outside yourself. Your self image and what you want to represent to the world, make that something you decide on your own and without fear the outcome. Being dissatisfied with yourself is just as bad as any cheating husband, stealing, betrayal...
Get and do what makes you feel happy. You know when its right for you because it makes you feel good inside, you know its bad for you when it does the opposite.
Sisterlocks makes me feel so good and that's how I know that its in line with me. Its what I want to represent right now.
As for my hubby, I am glad he told me. It forced me to look at myself, and I know a lot more about me than I did before. I am actually happier with me because of it.
How?
Because no one has the power to take joy from me anymore. That's it. I don't expect anything from him anymore. and its o.k. I will remain positive, loving, supportive, not because I'm looking for a pay-off or to manipulate: its just who I am!
I feel relieved too! I now don't do anything that makes me feel pressured and uncomfortable and that is a great space to be in one's life.
My husband told me that he had cheated on me while I was pregnant with our first child.
Whew! There I said it. I feel relieved.
Was it a difficult thing to here? Lets just say that I am pretty sure I know what it feels like to be stabbed in the heart: literally.
I thought about our "love" for one another. I tried to wrap my head around what he may have been thinking about when he was doing it. Was he "loving" me when he was F%&King her? Did he completely separate the two. Did he care for this chick(who he saw for 8 months. He did everything with her:AND I MEAN EVERYTHING!
I think that stung the most. Knowing that nothing we have done together is reserved for just me. It means you do it for performance props and not because your passionate about me.
I hated him for a while. I cried. I felt ugly. Ashamed.
Its funny how all those emotions I used to feel when I visited the neighborhood playground returned, "Get outa here Tar Baby!", or"If your darker than this paper bag, I can't play with you." That's what my playground experiences consisted of. Degradation, humiliation, and feeling unworthy to share the same laughter and joy as others.
But I had to snap out of it and really analyze my feelings.
Why am I hurt my this?
My answer: Because I thought we had come to a point in our "relationship" where trust wasn't an issue. I thought that he had matured though experience and he was finally happy with me.
What made me assume that he'd mature?
My answer: I thought that the risk of losing our relationship was enough to motivate him to change.
He has done this before, so why am I taking this so personally now?
my answer: Because I was pregnant at the time. I never planned to have another child. Gosh! My oldest daughter was 14 years old already. After many years of begging for a child, I finally give in and that's when you decide to cheat! I thought that by giving him what he wanted, that would make our relationship stronger.
How do you feel about him and the relationship now?
my answer: I know that something is gone inside of me. Would I secretly meet someone else? Will I eventually leave? These are things I had absolute answers to before all of this, and now, I didn't know.
I am not having a pity party everyday, that's not the way I want to live. But I do have a greater understanding about relationships and why certain woman go for security and not love. I now understand why multiple wives may not be such a bad thing for some women who understand the "bottom line".
Having an emotional connection to a man is a dangerous game and you may not get the pay-off you expect. Why do I say this? Because there isn't a woman I know that hasn't been through a discretion in a relationship; not one! But yet we do things to compromise our happiness and our mental and physical well-being everyday.
I realize now that I truly love my girls. When I thought about love, I immediately pictured my girls. My husband, I love him in a different way now. A 'take it or leave it sort of way'. I have no expectations about it, it just is what it is.
Its funny how we go through life trying to please people, but these same people do what they do to please themselves. You may occasionally make a breakthrough or win your plea for new drapes or a trip to Rome etc.. But you ultimately have to find that happiness within yourself.
I start my day in gratitude for waking up, for seeing, for breathing, for my children and for my husband... and this sets the tone for the rest of my day. It keeps me focused on the things that make me feel good.
It brought me back to when I first met Dr. Cornwell and learned of the Sisterlocks system. I was afraid to do it for fear that my husband wouldn't like it. I loved it, but I sacrificed my own happiness for what? For fear. That's what! We don't realize how much of what we don't do is because of fear.
Who wants to live like that!
Listen to me. Don't look for your worth from anything outside yourself. Your self image and what you want to represent to the world, make that something you decide on your own and without fear the outcome. Being dissatisfied with yourself is just as bad as any cheating husband, stealing, betrayal...
Get and do what makes you feel happy. You know when its right for you because it makes you feel good inside, you know its bad for you when it does the opposite.
Sisterlocks makes me feel so good and that's how I know that its in line with me. Its what I want to represent right now.
As for my hubby, I am glad he told me. It forced me to look at myself, and I know a lot more about me than I did before. I am actually happier with me because of it.
How?
Because no one has the power to take joy from me anymore. That's it. I don't expect anything from him anymore. and its o.k. I will remain positive, loving, supportive, not because I'm looking for a pay-off or to manipulate: its just who I am!
I feel relieved too! I now don't do anything that makes me feel pressured and uncomfortable and that is a great space to be in one's life.
Friday, January 25, 2008
Adding Extensions to Sisterlocks
Hi ladies! How is the year going for you so far? I feel wonderful. Very thankful for being alive. Anyways I just thought I'd stop by to address a question that keeps coming up about Sisterlocks. "Can you extend Sisterlocks?"
My answer up until now has always been no, but recently I had to add hair to mine. Yep I messed around and colored my hair again. This was actually the 14th time I colored my hair since I've had them in and boy my hair paid the price for my "reinventing phases". As I tod you guys in my past post, I wanted to change my hair color back to black. I guess I was feeling a little nostalgia and wanted to recapture a little of the past.
Remember when Jazzin hair rinse came out with that "blue-black" hair color. I loved that color. I did the whole jet black hair and blood red lipstick thing for years. So yes, I had to go there again. But this time I almost lost all my Locks.
So off I went to the china-man beauty supply to find something to correct my mishap. I found some kinky hair and immediately went home to see if I could thinken up the thinning areas of my locks. I was so afraid of losing my hair as some of them were hanging by three or four strands of hair.
So the technique I used was a wrapping technique and a braid technique. I would start wrapping the hair just above the thinning area(about 5 turns) , then I would divide the extension hair to create 3 pieces and I'd braid (about 4 turns) then I'd switch to the wrap technique again until the thin area was totally covered. The hair blended very nicely and it was locked in pretty tight too.
I don't want my fellow S consultants to slay me for adding hair to my locks but I really had no choice. It was either that or shave my hair off, and I ain't doing that.
I am thinking of offering this as an additional service for sistahs who are experiencing separating locks. But don't over color your hair like I did.
Anyway
My answer up until now has always been no, but recently I had to add hair to mine. Yep I messed around and colored my hair again. This was actually the 14th time I colored my hair since I've had them in and boy my hair paid the price for my "reinventing phases". As I tod you guys in my past post, I wanted to change my hair color back to black. I guess I was feeling a little nostalgia and wanted to recapture a little of the past.
Remember when Jazzin hair rinse came out with that "blue-black" hair color. I loved that color. I did the whole jet black hair and blood red lipstick thing for years. So yes, I had to go there again. But this time I almost lost all my Locks.
So off I went to the china-man beauty supply to find something to correct my mishap. I found some kinky hair and immediately went home to see if I could thinken up the thinning areas of my locks. I was so afraid of losing my hair as some of them were hanging by three or four strands of hair.
So the technique I used was a wrapping technique and a braid technique. I would start wrapping the hair just above the thinning area(about 5 turns) , then I would divide the extension hair to create 3 pieces and I'd braid (about 4 turns) then I'd switch to the wrap technique again until the thin area was totally covered. The hair blended very nicely and it was locked in pretty tight too.
I don't want my fellow S consultants to slay me for adding hair to my locks but I really had no choice. It was either that or shave my hair off, and I ain't doing that.
I am thinking of offering this as an additional service for sistahs who are experiencing separating locks. But don't over color your hair like I did.
Anyway
natural hiar, wellness, self esteem
Hair extensions with Sisterlocks
Tuesday, January 22, 2008
Decide that Sisterlocks is For You
Why are we so afraid of our hair? I do consultations quite often and I do see a trend with respect to having natural hair. Its fear! I hear it all the time. I am scared that my hair won't "look right" or "I don't want it to look ruff" or "I'm afraid that my husband won't like my hair natural".
I can go on and on. It does make me feel like we still have much work to do in the way we think about ourselves. Though we say we have, we still have to make an effort or prove that we love who we are. For me to 'sell' Sisterlocks I usually get caught into a history lesson as well. Don't get me wrong, I love taking about history and nappy hair, but why the need for so much convincing?
This is who you are. You are the possessor of extra curly hair and there is nothing wrong with this.
I think we need to start really examining our intention to lock hair. Is it to embrace your heritage and show the world that your nappy hair is beautiful? Or is it to finally hair hair that will grow past your shoulders and you really don't give a damn how you get Sisterlocks or not. It it to be an example to your girls or are you doing it to please your husband?
I would say that the ideal way to think is to have them because you want them, but that's my opinion and you don't have to be coming from the same place as I am.
I am truly tired of the politicising of this hair thing. I wish there wasn't a need to campaign for nappy hair. I wish that when I talk with sisters about getting Sisterlocks that they make the decision because it is a better way to live not because they want to buck the system or defy main stream images. I think we give those things to much energy.
Can we live! All I want to do is live life. No labels, no fire and brimstone, unnatural things.
Its time for you to live our lives without the campaigns, debates, worries etc..
JUST Do IT!
natural hiar, wellness, self esteem
sisterock consulations
Friday, January 11, 2008
Sisterlocks and What it Means To Me!
Sisterlocks is on the move. Are ready to ride the wave? Are you letting your hairstyle keep you from being being a better you for the New Year. I remember when I first got my Sisterlocks, I immediately started working out more. I guess I wanted to put them to the test, see if they would hold up under extreme conditions. They did!
I think Sisterlocks is liberating because you don't have to think about your hair as much. You just get up and go. For us, I think to much time is spent on hair. Who has time to worry about curling hair in the morning, or finding the right angle to sleep in so you don't mess up your hair. That is to much work! I go to sleep looking I do, I wake up looking like I do, I workout and still look the same, I wash my hair and still look the same. Sisterlocks is about natural beauty to me.
Join the family^)
I think Sisterlocks is liberating because you don't have to think about your hair as much. You just get up and go. For us, I think to much time is spent on hair. Who has time to worry about curling hair in the morning, or finding the right angle to sleep in so you don't mess up your hair. That is to much work! I go to sleep looking I do, I wake up looking like I do, I workout and still look the same, I wash my hair and still look the same. Sisterlocks is about natural beauty to me.
Join the family^)
natural hiar, wellness, self esteem
sisterlocks the meaning of it
Friday, January 04, 2008
Decide to get Sisterlocks
So the new year brings new things. What have you committed to this year. Have you decided to live more green this year, maybe workout more, or no more perms.
All are good things to do for the new year. Sisterlocks is the gift that keeps on giving. By that I mean that usually people who decide to do Sisterlcosk usually focus on other areas of their lives as well. Somehow it draws our attention to a cleaner, toxic free way of living. I know that I made this commitment after my father had passed away. It was my revelation that life was too short to wait for approval from other people. It was clear that once your gone, you become a memory and a distant one for those not so close to you.
Have you decided to do Sisterlocks but are afraid of what you may look like or what people might say? This my dear is an assumption that the whole outcome will be a negative one. Why do we do this. Why is it so easy to look for the worst in everything?
If Sisterlocks is something that you feel you want, then go for it^)
All are good things to do for the new year. Sisterlocks is the gift that keeps on giving. By that I mean that usually people who decide to do Sisterlcosk usually focus on other areas of their lives as well. Somehow it draws our attention to a cleaner, toxic free way of living. I know that I made this commitment after my father had passed away. It was my revelation that life was too short to wait for approval from other people. It was clear that once your gone, you become a memory and a distant one for those not so close to you.
Have you decided to do Sisterlocks but are afraid of what you may look like or what people might say? This my dear is an assumption that the whole outcome will be a negative one. Why do we do this. Why is it so easy to look for the worst in everything?
If Sisterlocks is something that you feel you want, then go for it^)
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